Unless you have some sort of insatiable sex drive and are blessed with a badass libido, it's actually pretty normal to go through periods where you just don't feeling like doing it. Especially when you've been in a relationship with someone for a long time.
If you're ticking that last box and have been with your S.O for a few years and now you're finding yourself looking longingly back at the days where you used to match your underwear, flirt over glasses of wine and spend your company hours scouring the depths of Asos for a sexy new outfit - then chances are you've gone through 'the dip' (god, that sounds so ominous).
If you thought for a second that you were alone in this dip, then think again, because there's been a new study* and it says that the average woman reaches a point in a relationship where her passion inevitably wanes. And it's after 12 months. Apparently - though I'm sure many of us would argue that.
But, yes, one year of regular sex with your boyfriend or husband, then it's said to take a little nosedive. But, the study also said that men never experience the dip - their sex drive carries on, regardless of the time they've been with someone. Now, I for one, feel shortchanged by all this. How come we only get a one year honeymoon period, while they get to carry it on for the rest of their years?
If you do feel like your passion has started to fade, there are ways of fighting it. Here's a couple of tricks to bring the sexy back into your relationship...
1. Try something new
It sounds so simple, but exploring your sexual fantasies is probably the easiest way to get things kicking again. Is there something you've secretly wanted to try? A hidden foot fetish or love of bondage (hey, who are we to judge)? Get over the awkwardness and mention it to him - men are usually more than obliging with this sort of thing.
2. Kiss more
Research has proven that couples who kiss often tend to have better sex lives. It's something so simple, but easy to forget to frequently do in long-term relationships (and no, we're talking lip-to-lip here not a goodbye peck on the cheek). So there you have it, pucker up!
3. Bring back the surprise
We were reminiscing about the times your were scrolling through Asos for a sexy LBD a minute ago, but let's talk about it seriously. How often do you find yourself doing it now - surprising your other half with a sexy new dress, or lingerie set? Plan to surprise him by doing something sexy and he'll be grateful and you'll get to act like a total sex goddess for the night. Win win.
4. Talk dirrrty
If you feel confident enough, then try sending him over a unexpected sexy message (we've all learnt from Bridget Jones that text is better than via speakerphone). Sometimes it's easier to get vocal over text about what you want from sex, than it is face-to-face. Plus, you'll both get to spend your afternoons fantasising about racing home - hyping up all that long-lost sexual tension.
* Study by the University of Southampton
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