This one sign will tell you if he's 'the one'

I've been thinking a lot of 'the one' this week. Is there a one? Or are the plenty of ones and you just happen to meet and settle for one of those ones before you get the chance to meet another?

My thinking is that there's plenty of people in the world who we would each would be compatible with - based on looks, personality and age - and it's just about who's in your reach, and who you meet first out of those potential suitors. Saying that, I have a few friends that swear they had a moment of 'realisation' when they met their one.

I wonder, is it really possible that some people just gravitate towards their perfect person and their life course would always have sent them into each other? Are there really Allie and Noah love stories these days, when modern dating has become so disposable?

We're straying a little from the question here though - how do you know if he's the one? If you've done a Google search then you'll see a whole bunch of articles telling you a dozen different little ways to tell if this guy is different from the others you've dated - and sure, you can read them all and look into it with a microscope but honestly, you can narrow it down to ONE sign. Just one way you can tell - and it's something you've probably already noted, even if it hasn't been consciously.

It's easy.

Simple as that. Think of your past relationship(s) that didn't work out - what did they have in common? Was it a real struggle to get along, or to get yourselves on the same page, or to line up what you both wanted out of the relationship? Did your opinions differ, or did everything wind up in little argument that chipped away at you until there was nothing left but resentment? That's because it wasn't easy. You were fighting against a grain.

A successful relationship isn't a struggle. Sure, there will always be fights and things you don't agree on. Unless he's pro-Trump or does little fist pumps at the thought of nuclear war, then you can get past little differences because most of the time, you've both got your shit together and you just work. You won't have to worry about where they are or what they're doing, and it won't occur to you to wonder if they're lying. You won't have to feel alone or trapped because he doesn't bring out any of those feelings you had with people in the past. 

So, no more 'if he buys you flowers on a Wednesday then he's the one', and no 'he met my family in the first month so it means he's the one'. That stuff is subjective, and relationships move at different paces and to different rhythms, so what was a 'sign' for one person may not be the same for you. And you shouldn't feel bad if he doesn't tick every one of their boxes because it's about what's floating your boat. If it's easy and flows then the other insignificant little things will just seem to fall miraculously into place.

Find the one that makes your life easier and you're going down the right track.