I sent him my number - why isn't he asking to meet up?

So, you met a guy on dating site and you chose to throw aside the risk of him being a complete nutter, like the carefree soul you are, and you sent him your number. We've all heard of first comes love, second comes marriage - well, these days it's more like first comes mutual matching, then comes an awkward AF date with someone who bears a 6% resemblance to their photos.


But what if step two, the date, just doesn't happen? What if that careful curation of your best cute-yet-approachable photos, and your profile bio (that you spent more time on than your CV), only got you one long conversation and absolutely no date?
If you've been in this situation, and you've put time and effort into speaking to a man, all for it to fizzle out because he never got round to asking you on that date, then you'll know just how frustrating it is. So why does it happen? Why is it that some guys chat to you for days or even weeks, then just don't progress to step two and ask you out? Why don't they want to move your 'relationship' from the E world into the REAL world?
There's a few possibilities..

-He might have other options
Online dating makes it easy to have a couple of women on the go. He might be dating others and can't commit the time to you. He wants you warming up on the sidelines but he's got you benched right now. If you suspect this is the case, then maybe let this one go because no one wants, or needs, to be a backup girl. If you're really into him then have a read of 'Get him to treat you like a priority not an option'.

or

-He could have a wife/girlfriend

He likes the attention but he's debating over the prospect of cheating. If you can find his social profiles then have a little look through them to see if there's any evidence of another woman (we ALL have a friend who can find out which primary school he went to based on a first name). If he's being deliberately shady about giving you any info, then it's usually because he's hiding something. Unless you fantasise about sleeping with an unavailable man (no judgement, but I'll just throw the term 'girl code' out right here), then head for them hills.

or

-He has no game

He doesn't have much experience in the dating world, or he's newly out of a long-term relationship, and he's completely unaware of dating protocols. This type of man isn't necessarily doing anything wrong, but they might need a little coaching into getting the courage to ask you on a date.

The overall message here is that texting/whatsapping/voicenoting is all well and good - after you've met up or been on a date.  But when it becomes the primary form of how you're talking (i.e., instead of meeting up), then something is wrong.  Whichever reason it is, do you really want to be at the end of someone's list of priorities - hanging out right at the back there with 'do laundry'? Or 'the other woman'? No. You don't. I'm telling you, YOU are better than that. 

Hold out for someone that plans, makes time, and enjoys face-to-face dates with you. He's out there, just probably not on Tinder posing with a sleeping tiger (seriously, who do these guys end up with?)